The symptoms of pregnancy kicked in before I knew I was expecting. Soon the joy of pregnancy was overshadowed by the discomforts of the 1st trimester. I tried my best to deal with this new situation in my life by diverting my mind to more productive things like gathering information. It’s important to know what changes you will be experiencing and how to deal with tricky situations.
I started reading pregnancy blogs, books and apps. The most helpful were the apps; they provide you with details about the little life growing inside you week after week. Pregnant women go by weeks instead of months, there had been times when someone asked me which month is going on and I have replied in reference to weeks. The development and changes are constant, it can be quite challenging. Once you feel like you have conquered a small battle of discomfort, soon after that a new one arrives. So talking to other mothers, reading books, watching documentaries, anything and everything will help when needed.
Pregnancy books and apps update you weekly about your changing body and the baby. Especially its fun to know the exact size and formation of the baby, they would compare the baby’s size to fruits for example poppy seed, blueberry, orange and eventually even a watermelon. Imagine carrying a watermelon with you all the time, it’s exhausting. And I had two watermelons. Phew! Now when I think about it was a backbreaking job. Literally. But I never looked so huge, and this was one of the few times I have thanked my lucky starts for being tall.
When people think about pregnancy they often think delivery is the toughest part, nope I don’t think so. Really, for me it was the 1st trimester. It obviously differs for everyone many lucky ladies don’t throw up even once. And there are few who realize they are expecting after their 1st trimester is over. True story. When I was going through a tough time keeping food or water down my throat I spoke to many moms. The ones who went through the same experience as me sympathized with me; the ones who had even worst experience then me got my sympathies and the lucky ones who sailed through it could probably see me turn green with envy.
After the grueling 2 months of my 1st trimester, my mom arrives in US. She is in my words “Supernanni” (Super grandma). It was like the captain of a sinking ship had arrived and taken charge. By that time we had decided to move back to India (It was probably a very good decision taken by us, will get to that later). Before we shifted our base to India we had one last doctor’s appointment. During the ultrasound the technician offered to let us know the gender of the babies. We were thrilled that we can know in advance so I can plan our baby shopping. Yoo-hoo! I knew it’s illegal to know the gender of the baby in India, so making the most of the opportunity we gave our consent. And it was pink all the way. Two little baby girls, we both were super excited. The very next day we went to Carter’s and Babies R Us. My mom, dad and Maninder attacked on baby girl’s section like there is no tomorrow. After two hours of going through every rack of clothing, accessories and baby essentials, we all seemed satisfied with the purchase for our future little princesses.
Now the big move. It seemed like the longest flight of my life. After dragging ourselves across the planet we landed in New Delhi Airport, and I realized three hours of train ride is still left. It went by in a daze. Eventually we reached Mohali, after that I was on voluntary house arrest for a week recovering from jet lag and exhaustion. Soon I realized I have to find a doctor, I still have half the pregnancy left. After doing a good amount of research we decided Fortis Mohali as our hospital. The rest of the 2nd trimester went in celebrating festivals like Dussehra, Diwali and Guru Purab, meeting up with relatives and catching up with buddies on phone. The 2nd trimester is the easiest as you have passed the morning sickness phase and don’t have a big belly that can restrict your mobility. So it’s a good time to travel.
I was really looking forward to the babies moving in the womb. I had often wondered and goggled how would it feel when the baby kicks. Around the end of the 2nd trimester, one day I was reading Gone with the wind (Yup! Again) and snacking on cookies & milk, I felt the kick. Or I thought that was a kick. But I wasn’t sure, and then it happened again. Yes! that was definitely a kick I said to my self. It was an amazing feeling. After that I would specially take out time after the meals to lie down, relax and feel the babies move. It was super cute in the beginning but eventually it turned into sessions of boxing matches between Baby A and Baby B. As the time progressed and the babies gained more weight and became stronger the intensity of the moments also increased. Ironically these matches would start when I would be tucked under my quilt ready to fall off to sleep and BAM BOOM BAM!!!! So basically the sleepless nights started much before the babies arrived.
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